It’s In Your Process

Trying to be perfect as a way to escape failure really sabotaged me, both during my dog training journey and in life. I thought I couldn’t make a mistake, because I would ruin what I was trying to create. It kept me in analysis paralysis. One dog trainer I follow says, “The way you do…

Closure

I finally have the words! I finally realize what it is we need the most right now. It’s closure. I am ready to face his reactivity for what it is, a big giant fit. We are not monsters. We were just on a looooooong journey. We are both ready for closure. I am ready to…

We Forge On

Jedi keeping an eagle eye on that Bald Eagle. Why yes, he does love to herd the things through the sky. Another snowstorm is on the way. So happy it is supposed to arrive on a day, I do not have to drive into work. Instead, I can catch a glimpse of it out the…

On The Move!

I am 2 months into rehabbing a frozen shoulder. It is quite painful, but I am grateful it is finally getting unstuck. The inflammation pushes my shoulder awkwardly out of the socket. My physical therapist warned me it can take 1 -2 years to heal. I cannot accept that. I think with hard work, it…

Discovering All Moving Things

Wow, so much has happened since I last wrote. I wish I would have actually blogged (create SHORT stories) about it. HA! I will see what I can do to capture the events, I really wanted to sort this out as it happened. First, I have joined forces with three dog ladies. Pretty cool, as…

When Fear Keeps You Too Safe

Fear is a powerful thing. I learned at a very young age that fear kept me safe. I used it often to avoid conflicts or injury. This is a valid use of fear. The trick is, there is a healthy amount of fear, but there is also a shadow side. There is a fear of…

Re-Framing Missed Opportunities

We walk past them like the unpopular kids from high school. There they stand incredulous to the idea we would dismiss them so completely. Heads drop, shoulders sink, defeated. We overlook them, these moments that could turn into the best times of our lives, passed by without a hint of acknowledgement. Let me set the…

What’s In The Box…Surprise!

Some ingredients for being a good leader: understanding everyone makes mistakes, understanding someone must be strong and hold the wheel when no one else can, understanding how you can influence others, understanding there is more than one way, understanding when to change directions and empathy. I am recovering from a car accident. I was rear…

The Day It All Changed

I remember my absolute horror as the women and her border collie exited the training facility. Her eyes grew large and she gasped. I don’t remember her exact words, but I suddenly felt like I had a monster on the other end of my leash. Dumbfounded, I stammered and fumbled with Jedi’s new behavior, adding…

Are We Right for Each Other?

Holy moly, I don’t want to tell my husband anything about this!  We made it through our Veterinarian Behaviorist appointment last week and he wasn’t able to make it. I had a very dear friend who owns a dog-training business, come with me. She was my second set of ears. I did have some homework…

Smoldering Sparks of Passion

So you are trying to learn something new and most likely feel vulnerable about your first attempts. You are a spark, this new little spark of passion. You want to express your passion to the world, but people are looking at you. They are watching these meager first attempts. Some may have years and years…

Recognize Choice!

No matter how I tell Jedi’s story, some people feel the need to tell me, I am at fault for Jedi’s reactivity.  How does searching for fault provide value to me?  This leaves me scratching my head, could it be human nature of sorts, albeit unintended.  I challenge those people to change their perspective for just…