Re-Framing Missed Opportunities

We walk past them like the unpopular kids from high school. There they stand incredulous to the idea we would dismiss them so completely. Heads drop, shoulders sink, defeated. We overlook them, these moments that could turn into the best times of our lives, passed by without a hint of acknowledgement. Let me set the…

What’s In The Box…Surprise!

Some ingredients for being a good leader: understanding everyone makes mistakes, understanding someone must be strong and hold the wheel when no one else can, understanding how you can influence others, understanding there is more than one way, understanding when to change directions and empathy. I am recovering from a car accident. I was rear…

The Day It All Changed

I remember my absolute horror as the women and her border collie exited the training facility. Her eyes grew large and she gasped. I don’t remember her exact words, but I suddenly felt like I had a monster on the other end of my leash. Dumbfounded, I stammered and fumbled with Jedi’s new behavior, adding…

Are We Right for Each Other?

Holy moly, I don’t want to tell my husband anything about this!  We made it through our Veterinarian Behaviorist appointment last week and he wasn’t able to make it. I had a very dear friend who owns a dog-training business, come with me. She was my second set of ears. I did have some homework…

Recognize Choice!

No matter how I tell Jedi’s story, some people feel the need to tell me, I am at fault for Jedi’s reactivity.  How does searching for fault provide value to me?  This leaves me scratching my head, could it be human nature of sorts, albeit unintended.  I challenge those people to change their perspective for just…

Back to the New Normal

Well, I decided to have Jedi neutered.  I made this decision, because I have researched nature vs. nurture.  Even though, these issues may have been caused by nurture, they can start to bleed into the DNA and be passed down to Jedi’s pups.  I knew this would be hard on all of us; I did…

If You Cannot, How Can You Ask It Of Others?

I have made mistakes.  I choose to learn from them and then leave them in the past.  I am looking forward.  Two steps forward, one step back.  Still counts as moving forward!  That is all I ask.  One day we will get there and it will be glorious! We have definitely made some progress in…

One Step Away from Crazy

Did I just witness progress?!?!? Why yes, I believe I did.  CAR FANATICS, stay tuned. I have a gift for being able relate anything to dog training.  I had the most brilliant idea of comparing dog training to a car!  Now maybe my husband will love listening to my incessant dog training talk!!!  Right? Due…

If I Lead, Will You Follow?

Why should anyone ever do anything for me?  Am I commanding, do I look intimidating, am I holding a weapon or holding something hostage, do I have a bribe for you? How does a leader make things happen? This is a very important question, especially if you take away spoken language. With two weeks off…

A Little Respect Please!

Training your reactive dog is the same as training your reactive spouse.   Herding Lesson #3: No herding.  The farm and field were unsafe to walk on for both people and animals.  It was covered with snow that had been compressed and melted into ice. I have been thinking about this all week, I broke…

Writhing and Slithering Down the Trail

Herding lesson #2:  This blog really isn’t about herding, it is about trying to get my dog to the herding pen.  It’s about trying to be a good leader.  It is about picking yourself up, every single time you stumble.  It is about listening, learning and upon failure, not giving up, but instead coming at…

I Got A New Dog

First herding lesson in a year…I got a new dog, probably not the way you are thinking however. I will start by saying that is going to be controversial.  Our first herding lesson was on a nice warm winter’s day.  It was in the 30’s, I was prepared wearing my Carhartt bibs, just in case…