It’s In Your Process

Trying to be perfect as a way to escape failure really sabotaged me, both during my dog training journey and in life. I thought I couldn’t make a mistake, because I would ruin what I was trying to create. It kept me in analysis paralysis. One dog trainer I follow says, β€œThe way you do…

Level Agility Unlocked

We finally got out yesterday to face down some of our fears and I am shocked at what happened. My friend Kristin and her speedy Italian Greyhound, Skittles, joined us for a little agility fun. We grabbed our clip and go jumps and planned to meet up at the dog school. I had no expectations….

Closure

I finally have the words! I finally realize what it is we need the most right now. It’s closure. I am ready to face his reactivity for what it is, a big giant fit. We are not monsters. We were just on a looooooong journey. We are both ready for closure. I am ready to…

We Forge On

Jedi keeping an eagle eye on that Bald Eagle. Why yes, he does love to herd the things through the sky. Another snowstorm is on the way. So happy it is supposed to arrive on a day, I do not have to drive into work. Instead, I can catch a glimpse of it out the…

Back To The Future

Adding some fun into our reactivity work. About a week ago we went to a private agility lesson. Jedi did great, albeit a bit whiny, slightly amped. We have to get out more, it’s dark when I get off work on week nights right now. Hurry up winter solstice. The instructor is used to having…

Superpower: I Can Turn Into A Mouse

  How did I get so small? I don’t want to bother anyone. My parents had a rough go of it financially when I was a kid. My dad had to go on strike a few times, he was laid off a few times, his company closed down a few times. He was a truck…

Little Girl Found

  I found her hiding in the corner. I told her she was not a monster and she could choose to believe it. She said she did and we kicked that shit to the curb. We wasted so much time. My niece is possibly being bullied in basketball. I realize I am a huge influence…

Moving Out Of My Own Way

This story is about another layer of me, being peeled away. I started a book club and currently we are reading “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide To Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz. As I was listening to the second agreement, I was grateful to receive it into my being. I am just coming…

Finding Peace

Let me tell you a little bit about my parents. They are stoic, caring, kindhearted, soft, world loving people. They both had difficult childhoods. They both overcame adversity, but suffered trauma. They are strong people. When my parents decided to start a family, they wanted their kids to have an amazing childhood. My parents held…

I’ve Been Cracked Right Open

I have just lived a BrenΓ¨ Brown Ted Talk. Funny thing, I have watched this talk previously and thought, “Oh ya, I get it, sounds easy”. Ha! It is so easy, but so difficult at the same time. Changes are happening so fast, this brought me clarity. You see, I have experienced trauma in my…

Stand For Yourself

  Stand for yourself To create a real sense of self worth, you must believe it for yourself. True belief comes from the inside, it’s what you strive to be. It’s standing in your own space and loving what you see. Make a list of the things you love about yourself and strive to be…

The Road To Balance

I practice self sacrifice behavior to a fault. There is a middle of the road. Let me tell you two stories about the extremes of my road and why it is harmful to live there. I used to race my road bike. One of the best gifts I received from racing was that you could…